Last week I had  a very happy and special day. I had the honour and tremendous joy to graduate 4 beautiful women from the “Heal your Roots” (HyR) Family and Systemic Constellation and Trauma Healing Training at the Humaniversity in Holland. This training contains my lifelong experiences and therapeutic knowledge, combined together in a unique […]

Forgiveness and Compassion

Today is Yom Kippur for the Jewish community, the day of atonement, the highest Jewish holiday. Interestingly it made me think about the concept of forgiveness which is discussed with great diversity, not only  in the therapeutic world. These thoughts came up: Forgiveness could be an act to make me feel superior to the other: […]

Being authentic

Yesterday I had to make a choice: either to adjust to the wishes of a friend or to be true to myself. It was not an easy situation, because there were expectations and hopes on the other side, which I would disappoint if I stayed true to myself. But if I would follow his wishes […]

Moments of life

At this moment I am sitting in my living room in Tel Aviv, Israel, where I spend a month to teach, give sessions, enjoy meeting my friends, trying to cope with the heat, and generally being happy.    Life has blessed me all along the way until this day, and the more I become aware […]

Walk the walk

My very dear teacher and friend Veeresh said many years ago: When you want to be an authentic honest teacher, you have to be the same person on stage as you are behind the stage. Wow! This was truly a discovery for me. In my studies and in my education as a therapist I had […]

Living Young

Many times people ask me: What is it that makes you look so young? Well, I think, mostly it is, because I have good genes. But there is also something more to it. At one point in my life I chose to live exactly how I want to, make very little compromises (only if absolutely […]

Free Spirit

A dear friend calls me a “free spirit”. I agree. I am a free spirit! But what does that mean? For me it means that I think and act according to my own values and standards, that I do not compromise my values for the sake of money, acknowledgement, power, career, love, or anything else, […]

Healing and Love

I believe in the healing power of unconditional love. This may sound illusionary or naive, but it is my own experience. I grew up in an environment of violence, abuse and restrictions of all kinds. Love was not an issue, everything was about fitting into a religious system that dealt with guilt, shame, sin, confession, […]


Being alone and celebrating it can be a wonderful meditation. I am still in the process of learning and enjoying aloneness. Sometimes I really do, for instance in the morning, when I wake up, make myself the first cup of delicious coffee, take it back to bed, take my iPhone, read messages, answer mails, tuning […]

When the heart is turned upside down

In times of sadness, loss, grief, how can we be there for each other without violating the boundaries of each other?  Recently a dear friend lost a close friend of his who had died unexpectedly. I felt so sad for his loss, and I expressed this to him. I knew, that  there was no consolation […]

Born again

Today is the beginning of spring! This is the time of year when everything starts growing again. In nature and inside us there is a fresh new start, coming from what has been completed and fertilized during the dark season. As a symbol I like to look at this time as the time for new […]

Season Greetings

For this Christmas and Hanukka season I wish you all the love and blessings that you can receive. Follow your heart, your dreams, your passion. Do not allow fear to rule you. Take the fear with you and follow your own path. Be blessed, all the way.

Welcome to my new homepage

Welcome to my new homepage! I am very happy to present to you my new homepage, created with love and the wonderful support of Mandi Gould, a friend who I met in New York last year at the Frankie100 festival. This new page has so many new features to play with, and the best thing […]

Danke, dass du ein Teil meines Lebens bist und es auf so wunderbare Weise bereicherst.

“Ich lernte Sakino im Dezember 2006 im Rahmen meines Psychologie-Studiums bei einem Wochenendseminar zum Thema „Berufsfelder für Psychologen“ kennen. Sakino fiel mir damals vor allem dadurch auf, dass sie anders war als die anderen Referenten und ich mir nicht sicher war, ob ich im Seminar bleiben sollte. Gott sei Dank hat mich die Neugierde bleiben […]